tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824836604247418948.post149840254264020965..comments2022-11-12T10:09:40.307-05:00Comments on 4gaby: Bullies - Words Do HurtSheilah Zimpelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02285848420483504211noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824836604247418948.post-27984769259282328012010-11-16T02:59:13.386-05:002010-11-16T02:59:13.386-05:00I was terribly bullied at school and somehow alway...I was terribly bullied at school and somehow always felt it was my fault. Now at 44 I shy away from bully-like people and still go out of my way to avoid contact. I guess for me it has stayed with me but I am, at least, trying to teach my daughter how to stand up for herself and not to give in to bullies.Dawn Tolsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03862617289104734868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824836604247418948.post-29124425034587785492010-11-15T20:04:44.674-05:002010-11-15T20:04:44.674-05:00Unfortunately the bullies often never see their ow...Unfortunately the bullies often never see their own reflection.Evelyn P Cooperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17022845583053677907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824836604247418948.post-2423420085291020462010-11-12T11:45:54.184-05:002010-11-12T11:45:54.184-05:00I have the same feeling as adult about not fitting...I have the same feeling as adult about not fitting in, and I trace it to feeling different in high school--having gone from small Catholic school to public high and feeling invisible, outcast. I think I bullied myself at a most vulnerable time, and that's not easy to recover from. Last night's Glee had a nice take on it. <br />My husband is teaching our son to fight back, just in case he gets bullied as my husband was for being small. I'm sure with boys it's more of a physical thing, and my rule is if there's more than 2, run; if only 1, fight back...<br />I've felt silent bullying in a job where I was the scab and was ignored, much like high school. I can better cope with it now, though, and it makes me stronger. I recite the St. Francis prayer a lot. And I try to remember that I'm never exempt from terrorizing others in some way--the adult form is gossip or cold shouldering, for me. <br />I let a Pastor bully me in a writing workshop once, and that stymied my writing for years. He was wrong, and I learned to say WTF to my misgivings, and write anyway. <br />I've been a party to listening to my neigbhor bully another neighbor at the bus stop, in front of children. That's been the worst, and I still have to ignore him, even though he forced my neighbor friend to move. So most days I'm reminded of the force of bullying, either at work or at the bus stop. It's a topic that never stops. We probably need an ongoing column about it...Sheilah Zimpelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02285848420483504211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824836604247418948.post-79442547479917471462010-11-11T20:32:42.280-05:002010-11-11T20:32:42.280-05:00I have to thank you for being so brave. Very few w...I have to thank you for being so brave. Very few would have the courage to be so honest about how bullies have affected them and how the experience continues to affect them today. I think fear, jealousy, and ignorance bred bullies, and I hope that by being open with my children, and non-judgemental they won't turn into bullies. I don't know. All I know is that mean girls sometimes grown up to be mean women, and it hurts.Mary Alford-Carmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06128885998230398086noreply@blogger.com